He might not have ever revealed, but your man definitely craves for something unusually seductive that pushes his passion-buttons the right way! So, what are you waiting for, we bring to you 6 sexual highs that he always craves for...
1. Listening
Some men are curious about all kinds of sex, while others are overtly conservative. Some however are just not sure of the specific sex moves they want to ask for. If your guy looks bored with the sex you're having it's probably because he's a bit bored. So the hottest thing you could ever do is to tell a man that he is free to ask you for anything. Even if you choose not to do what he's asking for, your guy will love that you listened and tried to understand and this is sure to turn him on.
2. Toys
Men have a love-hate relationship with your sex toys. While most men are convinced that these gadgets take the pressure off male sex performance, all dudes realise that they don't have long-lasting batteries like these machines. But what your guy may not be telling you is that he loves watching you use. So, what's stopping you from starting off a steamy sex romp? Get down and dirty and watch your man watch you get playful with your favourite sex toy! It will blow his mind.
3. Porn watching
All men dig porn, now here's how you can be part of the brat pack. Watch porn together on a steamy night. Your guy is bound to get aroused watching you becoming out-of-control sexcited at the sight of male porn actors. Men also fantasise about their babe mimicking the woman in the porn flick. So, get into some serious role play and scale new heights of desire.
4. Surprise them
Most men love to be pampered and caught off guard. So, why not service your man's fantasy by organising a match night where he's watching his favourite cricket match with you alone. Pour him a chilled beer, massage his back and shoulders with your hands and whisper sweet nothings in his ears. Don't jump into the sack right away. Stimulate his mind, sit on his lap and kiss him all over the body. The girlie make out session will have him charged up in bed later.
5. Fantasise
All men share kinky fantasises of making indulging in role play or being dominated with whips and chains in true bondage style. Now, instead of shunning his kinky desires - give them a concrete shape by participating in them. Catch your man by surprise clad in a leather cat suit, tie him to the bed post and allow him to live out his wildest sexual thrills!
6. Cross Dressing
Men wear trousers and a shirt. Everything else is just a variation of the same dress code. Why not raid his wardrobe and get in touch with your androgynous side. Put on his shirts, spray his strong manly scent and seduce him. And if your man wants to try on your lacy lingerie - don't say no, fun lies in experimentation afterall.
Tired of boredom in your bedroom? Wanting to add a dash of adventure to your sex sessions? Maybe it's time you converted your bedroom into a veritable Garden of Eden to add that sizzle between the sheets.
We bring to you a list of top 10 props, which are a must have in every couple's bedroom.
So get started collecting these love essentials and you could be in for some real hot action tonight.
1. Passion oils: Those unaware about the power of fragrances must know that right kind of smell works as a magical mood setter driving passion to new heights. So, a few essential passion oils in your bedroom are unavoidable so that they help you remain surcharged at all moments.
"Natural scents present in aroma oils are of key importance when it comes to heightening sexual attraction. Some scents are overpoweringly arousing aphrodisiacs for women, while others are good enough to bewitch even the most sober of men," explains Dr. Naresh Arora of Chase Aroma Therapy.
Some of the most effective passion oils are: Ylang Ylang, Rose otto, Jasmine, Neroli and Orange blossom. A drop in the diffuser, a sensuous massage or an utterly romantic bath with these passion oils is what you need to spark a night full of action!
2. A blindfold: Big or small – the excitement caused by blindfolding your lover can perk up the adrenaline rush. Add to it the feel of a satiny-silk cloth blind-folding your eyes and the thrill of touching and feeling your lover in all the unexplored places of his body.
You can also play hide and seek and various other tantalising love games using a blind-fold in the most sensuous manner. So go ahead and blindfold your partner to expose him to a sight they've never experienced before.
3. Handcuffs and silk scarves: If you lay your hands on a handcuff, nothing like it...else silk and satin scarves can also be a sensuous help to pep up the temperature. The purpose here is to have soft ties for bondage during foreplay or sex. Just turn your partner into your slave by handcuffing him/her to the bed or simply tying their limbs with something as soft and sexy as a silk scarf.
Being restrained and then loved can multiply the passion manifolds. "I find it really erotic to see my man writhing, struggling and moaning when I get naughty with him as he remains totally under my control, which happens only when I tie him up," says Neerja Mehendiratta, a 27-years-old advertising professional.
Being helpless is definitely pleasurable, even for your partner who's enjoying the mild domination. Either way, it's a win-win situation for both the partners, which adds to the sex experience.
4. A feather or a soft brush: Make your beau your sex slave and convert a mundane love making ritual into a heady passion play. Your partner is at your disposal and you have nothing but your hands to work with. Get into the experiment mode and use a soft brush to paint erotic love strokes on his chest, trunk, back...and anywhere that leaves him panting...tickling...and begging for more!
Arrange for a soft feather and let the playful touch therapy make him lose his senses to you. Men can use the feather to give a sensuous foot massage to their lady love and watch her writhe with pleasure. Or use it on her navel to turn her to new heights of pleasure.
We are a country of 1.2 billion people that don’t want to discuss the very act that put us on the planet. Let’s face it - our first and biggest sex problem is that the very word itself, “SEX”, makes us uncomfortable!
We are averse to it in advertising, in films, as living room chatter, as a subject for education in school; we certainly don’t want to acknowledge our parents ever had sex, or that our kids will have to, in order to produce the grandchildren we crave. Our resistance to discussing sexual issues and educating ourselves, our children and others on sex related matters, leads to unsatisfied sex lives, unwanted pregnancies, overpopulation, sexually transmitted diseases, and the spread of HIV/Aids. We are the ostrich that buries its head in the misplaced sands of “morality and culture”.
Which brings us to our second problem - a complete lack of knowledge about our culture? Anyone familiar with Hindu tantra or our world famous Kamasutra, will vouch for the fact that we were sexually liberal as a race. But somehow, our nation became so enamoured or influenced by the British Raj that we aspired for all that was theirs ... their fair skin, their power, their systems and their “morality”.
We absurdly swapped our sexually liberated way of life, for the “morality” of the Victorian era. And this brings us to our third problem - sensuous, joyous people that represented a tolerant culture turned inhibited, anxious and the joy of sex became a source of shame. Sex became unacceptable as an act of recreation. It was a function that was meant to be administered only as a means of procreation and that too, within the boundaries of marriage.
This led to the death of foreplay, a resistance to exploratory acts of sex and conveniently took the pressure off the man to get his woman to an orgasm. Any attempt at a position other than missionary, was treated as an act of depravity which led to problem number four - intolerance of alternative sexuality!
Biographies of Roman kings, Greek heroes, Egyptian queens, depictions on our Konark and Khajuraho temples are all testimony to homosexuality being a part of world civilisations for centuries. However, the British deemed it a criminal offence in 1860. We sent the Brits packing but retained the desire to uphold their Victorian morality and laws.
Despite the British themselves decriminalising homosexuality in 1967, and legalising gay marriages in 2005, we carried the hangover till the Indian high court ruled it as a non-criminal offence in 2009. Unfortunately, a majority of our society still prefers the hangover. Their fear and intolerance of this community breeds misconceptions, phobias and discrimination and compels 15 per cent of our population to hide and harbour feelings of shame when there should be no need for it.
Our fifth problem and most unfortunate problem is the moral police. They are problem number 1, 2, 3, 4 and 5 rolled into one and perpetuators of the same. Rather than go after child molesters, rapists, paedophiles, dowry deaths, they chase innocent consenting adult lovers, file cases on those who talk pro-premarital sex (ala Khushboo), burn shops that sell love cards... The list goes on ... ! They are averse to friendship between the sexes, love, sex and even the simple art of romance out of the boundaries of marriage.
I’ve listed the problems. But what are the solutions? I suppose it’s do away with Victorian hangovers, practice tolerance, and when in bed with your partner, remember ... there are only two known mammals that enjoy sex. Humans and dolphins. Let’s thank our creator and honour his intentions. Let’s make the most of it!