Sex lessons from your partner

When there’s no dearth of sex-education today, most lovers are usually quite well-read before hitting the

Sex lessons to learn from your partner

From guides, books and Internet journals to seeking help from gynecologists, sex-experts and of course their own friends who have been there and done that...they leave no stone unturned to keep their sexual-knowledge up-to-date.
Despite all their efforts and door-knockings to seek the best of sex-lessons, there’s still one source that partners often tend to ignore, leading to major goof-ups on D-Day. But who’s he? Well, it’s none other than your own partner.
“Agree or not, but there are a number of things a man can teach a woman and vice versa, when it comes to making love, “ says relationship expert, Radhika Saini.
So, here’s a low-down on lessons that you can learn from your partner...
From your man
To initiate: This is the best lesson a woman can make to learn ‘how to love’ from her man. While most women hold themselves back while making love, men get into a pro-active mode to set the ball rolling. So, learning to take charge to tread the way to sexual gratification is the most important lesson that a woman can learn from her man. Don’t forget that men love witnessing their meek kittens transforming into a sex-Goddesses all set to control them.
To experiment : This is another territory where men usually score brownie points, while women lose out. From trying newer techniques to getting their hands on new positions and places, men are more open to embrace change, while women usually stick to a boring routine, which only adds to the monotony to their sex life. So, if women can learn to shun their inhibitions the way their man does and open-up to take a newer plunge whenever boredom strikes their sex-life, sexual-gratification of both the partners will never remain unachievable.
To enjoy first and then evaluate : Women have a tendency to become critical of everything that a man does to her. Be it a new move in bed or a position of love-making, she usually dons the thinking cap and starts dissecting the act mid-way on grounds of health benefits, apprehensions, accessibility, her ease and comfort level. This kind of criticism chains the man’s prowess and progress in love-making and ultimately mars overall sexual pleasure. On the other hand, men believe in going with the flow and leaving the entire thinking and evaluating part for the end.
To share : From discussing their performance to sharing fantasies, men don’t have any qualms about opening up before the woman they love. They love to hear how they scored in the act and at the same time are totally at ease while sharing their wildest of fantasies with their woman with a hope that they will be fulfilled. However, women have a long way to go till they can be totally transparent in bed. Sometimes it is the fear of rejection, while at others, it is their bad habit of talking mid way during sex that often keeps a woman under wraps in front of her man. But gals, there’s always a scope of improvement. Sharing what you liked, disliked, want more of and never again with your man, will only make it easier for you to him to pleasure him and ultimately guarantee you sexual bliss.

Foreplay is foremost : The journey to bliss is as gratifying as the final destination and ignoring the

Sex lessons to learn from your partner

voyage will only take away the bonus points that you can score on your way. So, rather than heading straight for sex, it's high time men realized the importance of foreplay from their lady luck. Men give a mechanical touch to the otherwise sensitive and sensual act by chasing the climax and thus ignoring the pleasure pacts that the two can sign mid-way. So, learning the art of seduction and foreplay is the primary and the most important lesson that a man can learn from his gal.
Pleasure comes with patience : Making love is definitely about giving and receiving pleasure. Men are undoubtedly aware about this lesson, but only partially. Most of the times, they are more concerned about their own pleasure and completely sideline what their woman wants. Be it compromising on the arousal time, cutting down on foreplay or for that matter leaving her mid-way once he has are more into wham-bam-slam-thank you mam-kinda sex. On the other hand, the female counterpart accompanies you right from the beginning till the time you hit your peak irrespective of the stage she is in, expecting you to give her the same degree of patience and pleasure. So, men learn that love is not only about ‘taking’ it’s also about ‘giving’...and that pleasure gets doubled when both partners enjoy it!
Don’t force sex, rather give space : Be it letting the female partner pick and choose the sexual fantasies that they want to duplicate in the bedroom or waiting for her to start liking for your way of sex, which might be wild, wacky, dirty and must learn to respect the choice, preference and comfort zones of their ladies. Men often end up treating their women like sex-objects, while they are busy gratifying their own bizarre sexual wants from her. So they should learn to give their partner the required time to develop a liking for what they enjoy, rather help her in the process to bring in mutual pleasure. Do remember that harrowing the partner’s space will only add to your sexual woes.
We love you for what you are : Women are usually blamed for being a tad too conscious about their body image, especially when they are in bed. But, have you ever wondered who makes them so mindful of their appearance? Well, who else than the man himself. Why can’t they let her enjoy the act, rather than forcing her to think about how’s she looking between the sheets. This usually happens when men begin to compare their lady loves with sexy actresses they see in porn flicks. Love her for ‘who she is’ and not for ‘how she looks’, just like she does.

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